How To Talk To Women – Attraction Secrets
Dudes are always coming to me for bits of advice on how to talk to women. The bottom line is, they want to find out what they can say to make women feel turned on. In reality, however, the first thing these guys need to understand is what type of talk turns women OFF.
How To Talk To Women
For example, one of the worst things you can do when talking to women is come off as a “needy” guy. When talking to women, most guys don’t even realize how needy they are acting. But the girl picks up on it quickly. She can very quickly tell that you’re trying too hard to impress her. The reality is that when a girl gets the sense that you’re trying to impress her, it has the opposite effect — it actually turns her off, because you’re coming across as a low-value guy.
Coming across as an insecure guy is extremely unattractive. If you seem like a nervous wreck, there is simply no way she is going to feel any sexual attraction. (If anything, you’re repelling her.) A woman expects a man to be powerful, confident, and secure with himself. If you’re clearly lacking confidence or nervous — or if she senses that you’re trying to FAKE confidence — she will tune out almost immediately. She might keep talking to you out of politeness, but she’s not going to feel any attraction.
Women are turned off by guys who are “boring.” If you’re talking a woman you need to know how to keep the conversation fun. If you find yourself struggling to fill awkward silences, asking her boring and predictable “interview” questions (“So where are you from?” “What do you do for fun?” etc), it’s a safe bet that the girl you’re talking to is going to tune out pretty quickly.
Here’s another way that guys screw up when they talk to women: they don’t display any social intelligence. You’re probably wondering what “social intelligence” means, so let me explain. Women are social creatures. They go along with the “social norms.” One of the fastest ways to make a girl think you are “below” her is to seem like you have no idea what is cool or socially acceptable. Guys display a lack of social intelligence when they make stupid or inappropriate comments, fail to read the “signals” the girl is sending him, or when they keep cracking jokes that no one (except for him) finds entertaining.
When you consider it realistically, you really can’t blame a woman for not wanting a weak, insecure, socially clueless, boring, or needy man. Ask yourself… do you find these sort of women attractive?
OK, now that we’ve covered the type of talk (and men) that turn women off, let’s move on and discuss…
How can you turn women ON with your words and personality?
You have to know how to talk to women in a way that brings out her fun, flirty, and playful side. There is a song “Girls Just Want to Have Fun…” and the song is correct. This holds true in any environment where women are hanging out socializing (bars, clubs, parties, etc). More than anything else, she’s there to have a good time. You must be able to flirt with a woman in a way that makes her feel like she is back on the playground with her childhood crush.
Never forget that women are driven by their emotions. How to talk to women, you need to be aware of their emotional state — and the state you want to PUT them in. Talk about topics that evoke an emotional response from her, and cause her to experience emotional memories. Don’t focus on anything sad or morose. I’m referring to topics such as her passions, hidden talents, the best vacation she ever went on, etc.
You need to display that you are a socially intelligent man. Women are insanely turned on by men they believe have power, status, and social approval. The great part is that you don’t necessarily have to have any of these. You just need to make her THINK you have these qualities, by talking to her in a way that conveys confidence and self-assuredness. You have to talk to her from a place of power, status, and SLIGHT superiority. Girls are instinctively attracted to men they feel are slightly above them on the social ladder.
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You have to talk to her in a way that brings out her sexual side. The fact is, you can be having the greatest conversation in the world about a topic like “health food” but it will rarely lead to attraction. To move out of the realm of “friendly conversation” and take it to a deeper, more intimate level, you’ll have to talk to her about more personal topics. This doesn’t mean you talk about sex… but it does mean that you don’t shy away from personal and intimate topics. The right topics will create a sense of “deep rapport” (where she feels bonded to you), and when that happens, it’s easy to move into the seduction phase.
Very few guys understand the dynamics of how to talk to women in a way that creates deep interest and attraction. Most guys just wind up boring women.
I have coached enough men to know that most of them will freeze up in front of a beautiful woman. Some guys don’t freeze up, and are able to start the conversation — but they come across as boring, needy or insecure. They might as well have kept their mouths shut, because the girl completely tunes out after 30 seconds.
Women expect a man to be able to LEAD a conversation in a fun, flirty, and sexy way. She wants you to be able to make her laugh, smile, and feel safe and secure around you.
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In brief, the key to attracting a woman is to talk to her in a way that makes her feel fun, enjoyment and a sense of excitement when she’s around you — while slowly letting the sexual tension build. Then it’s about being dominant enough to go in for the kiss at the exact moment she is waiting to be kissed.
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